Handjob techniques and tips

A handjob is any stimulation from the hand of a partner on another person’s penis typically in a fashion that simulates the thrusting of penetrative sex. Handjobs might be the most undervalued sex act. Many people leave it behind, deliberately or unintentionally, when they begin engaging in oral sex, anal or vaginal penetrative sex. They are often associated as the go-to for inexperienced high schoolers, or as something you do when you want to get your partner off but you’re too tired for anything else. Compared to those heavy hitters, handjobs can be seen as less special, or even less sexy.

But handjobs are incredibly versatile. They can be performed by almost anyone and anywhere. All you need is someone with a penis and someone with a hand. They can be done practically in any place and in almost any position, including sitting, standing, lying down, and even underwater.

If done right, handjobs can be an incredible sex act in their own right. Learning how to give your boyfriend a superb hand job is a crucial thing to have in your sex toolkit. This article will give you enough different hand job ideas, tactics, and strategies to keep your guy entertained at all times.

Use lube

When you're using your hands, you need lubricant to minimize friction from skin-to-skin contact. Unlike your mouth or vagina, which are wet in nature, hands can be callus sometimes thus lubrication is needed. The hand job will become a lot smoother and simpler for you, as well as much more delightful for him. Everything will feel more slick, seductive, and sweet for both of you.

Start slowly

Start slowly and gently before getting more intense. The body needs a bit of time to get fully aroused before more intense stimulation feels as amazing as it can. Slowly starting not only makes it hotter if you're teasing, but they also offer the body some time for the blood flow to circulate its way throughout the penis for full erection potential. Squeeze the shaft softly from base to tip to wake up all those sensitive areas and draw blood flow forward through the shaft and up to the more sensitive head.

Make eye contact.

No matter what type of sex act you're having, eye contact is like an all-encompassing sexual secret weapon. Eye contact is also one way of checking in on your partner. It tells them you are connected with them and their pleasure.

Use both hands

Your hands are the most vital component of learning how to do a good hand job. Rough, calloused hands aren't going to produce a pleasurable hand job, and they might even make it uncomfortable. So, before you start giving your boyfriend a hand job, make sure your hands are soft and smooth to provide maximum pleasure.

If you’ve exhausted your one hand, try using two hands. Stack both hands on their shaft, one on top of the other, for a two-handed twist. Then, carefully rotate your hands in opposing directions, varying the pressure so you're also softly stroking and squeezing. Alter your hand technique. Prepare two or three different strategies to alternate and gradually move between.

Precum Play

If he is already pre-cumming at this point, brush it with your fingertip and slowly trace your fingertip around the head of his penis, spreading his precum and covering it.

His precum is the perfect lubricant, so the sensations from your fingertips will be more intense. Building up foreplay will likely make your man produce more precum. So don't be startled if you suddenly start giving him a hand job and there is a lack of precum.

Don't Be Afraid to Talk Dirty

Talking dirty isn't precisely a hand job method, but it's a fun way to mix things up and add another highly pleasurable perspective to your hand job toolkit. While lying in bed together, try leaning over and start whispering some dirty talk in his ear while jerking him off.

Give Attention to the Rest of His Body

If you have the time or simply want to make things even more erotic, give your partner a full rubdown. Start by rubbing your partner's back, buttocks, and feet with some oil or lubricant. This assists in warming up and preparing the entire body.

Get their balls involved.

If your spouse like it, try some mild ball massage. The amount of pressure will vary depending on the individual, but don't be afraid to touch their balls since it may be really exciting for them. A man’s balls are insanely sensitive. You can give him a hand massage with one hand while massaging his testicles with the other. You can try fondling, squeezing, pulling, licking, and sucking.

Get a rhythm going. Consistency Is Key

A consistent rhythm during a handjob is best when you want to make him cum. If you break this rhythm, it can be super frustrating.

As he approaches a climax, maintaining a consistent rhythm will feel far more pleasurable than stopping and resuming. So keep this in mind when your boyfriend is on the verge of climax. We recommend stroking up and down the shaft of your partner's penis, followed by turning your hands a quarter either way. When you see your spouse is close to climax, apply extra pressure to the head of their penis.

Keep an eye out for their sweet spots.

The frenulum is the most sensitive area on the head of the penis for almost all men. This is the tiny piece of flesh that joins the shaft to the head on the underside of his penis. The most important piece of advice when handling frenulum is to be careful with it. If you apply a lot of pressure on it during a hand job, it will most likely hurt your man.

According to Hall, three sensitive areas to pay special attention to are the frenulum (under the tip of the penis), the perineum (the region just beneath the testicles), and the base of the penis. You should make an effort to stimulate these regions in some way.

Let them finish on you

Offering a portion of your body like breasts, tummy, neck, face, or even feet for them to cum on is one of the hottest ways to finish up a hand job. And instead of rushing for tissues or jumping into the shower, tell them how much they turned you on. Take their penis in your hands and gently caress it. Give them a deep, lingering kiss.

Just remember that there is no perfect technique for doing a handjob. Because men have different preferences so you have to explore and observed what he likes and don’t like. If you are really not into giving a handjob or too tired to do it, check out our masturbator collection and let it do the work.